Thursday, December 24, 2009

Back 2 [their] Reality

Last Tuesday while at wing night, an older Black gentlemen politely interrupted my roommate and I and said "I'm sorry I just wanted to let you know, your hair is very pretty". Shocked, I responded with a thank you very much, you're like the 5th brotha to tell me this in 5 months! He sort of chuckled, and continued to wait for his food in silence, and I finished my dinner quite tickled.

Fast forward to Saturday, I had a funeral to attend in the early afternoon, and a Christmas party to host during the evening. Curious about the growth of my hair, and in need of trimmed ends, I had Ms. Gold flat iron it before the services. The response I received was quite interesting, most were astonished with the arguable longer length, but most were just happy to see my hair straight. From Saturday morning on, I have noticed a warmer reception to my hair, and I don't know if its because people agree with the texture, or the length. I feel some way about this, especially since a couple of my 5th grade students told me I looked "crazy" with my afro. Am I reading too much into this? I don't even know anymore!


P.S
My friend decided to take a picture via Iphone of the long awaited flat ironed results in case you're interested!

Merry Christmas!

First Lady 4.11

Friday, November 27, 2009

The Return ...

Ladies and Gentlemen,

I apologize for my absence, college is truly time consuming. No-Lye is not dead though, we just need your patience. After cruising the Natural hair care blogs, I just had to get this out to the masses.

Thanks to I have learned about a North Carolina theme park which does not allow its employees to have locs. The language is explicit in its distaste for the style, and can be seen in the photo below:



How do you feel about this? Is it discriminatory? Let me know what's really good.

P.S Happy Black Friday

1st Lady

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

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Thursday, October 8, 2009

Today I was partied to a discussion regarding women and whether or not they dress for the admiration of men, the acceptance or envy of other women or themselves...the consensus was pretty much evenly distributed in most areas meaning that most women when asked picked one of these answers as their motivation to look good. I was deeply disturbed at the amount of women who said they dress solely based upon the opinions of others. This natural process has taught me that everyone is a critic, ourselves being the worst. It is easier and in my opinion healthier mentally to develop a close intimate relationship with oneself, IE learn your likes and dislikes...make yourself smile...see your own beauty, I mean really see your own beauty, treat yourself, spoil yourself, love on yourself, commit to changing the things you don't like about your self....it is only after these things have been done that we can truly enjoy and contribute unselfishly to a relationship with someone else.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

You Sho Is Ugly

Well well well. In previous entries I have been critical about my brothas perception of good hair. Why? See on Friday I was told by an old friend who happens to be a black man to get a relaxer. Also the previous Sunday I was asked when I was gonna straighten it or "Do something else" with my mane. These are just a few examples of the straight up rude comments that have come from men, men I know specifically about the quality of my hair.

Well Saturday, I finally got a compliment from a brotha I didn't know. Well it wasn't like a compliment per say, maybe just a solicitation? As I waited outside my car for my take out order to finish, two young men walked past and said used juvenile methods to gain my attention. Although I didn't reciprocate interest, I took notice that it was the 1st time in a WHILE someone on the street tried to holla!

Although I am reading into something so random, and potentially and irrelevant, I can say that what is usually annoyance, was actually appreciated. I have had to not take my brothas comments to heart as it relates to my hair, because it honestly hurts to hear the way they percieve it. So to the 2 boys that was tryna get on, THANK YOU. You made me feel like all black men didn't find my hair repulsive, (even if that wasn't your intention.


First Lady

Friday, September 25, 2009

OVERRATED


It's been a minute since the last entry and I apologize for that. So to make up for it, I've got a gang of hatin, oops I mean critiquing to do.

So back in July when my hair was getting its arse kicked by the humidity I decided to embrace my kinkiness. In doing so I accepted product suggestions and Carols Daughter seemed to arise various times so I did my research and then made a business decision, which essentially became an expensive endeavor.
See, I'm cheap. I like to think its because I consider myself impoverished but the fact of the matter is I'm just bogus. So best believe when I found myself out the cash register droppin 21$ on 8oz of hair product, I was thinkin this product pull some Jesus miracles and fall just short of turnin water into wine.At least let it give my mane a little bit of luster. Man did Carol fail me miserably.

First I attempted to utilize the hair butter and after having mixed results from the Kizzy pommade, I put the CD on the shelf. But, thanks to my mentor Dr. Natural I got to complete my experiment with this heavily praised product when she lent me her Hair Milk and leave in conditioner. I just knew I was about to get my Jada Pinkett-Smith on!

After washing, buttering, and milking, the moment of the truth arrived. SADLY,
the only aesthetic difference was the noticeable fragrance of my hair, and that got old quickly.

Overall, ladies it could be my hair type but the Carol's Daughter I used thus far was less than mediocre.

Using the No-Lye Product Rating scale I'd like to give the Caroll's Daughter Hair Milk, Hair Butter, and Leave in Conditioner the following:

2 Wide Toof Combs = I'd only cop it if it was free. CD isn't the worse, but considering its price and praise, its far from the best.


Price: Hair Milk 4oz $12 Healthy Hair Butter 4oz 10.50 Kizzi Stay Put Pomade 9.50
Location: Sephora/ Online


If your opinions differ, let me know, cuz my soul and my 5/3rd card are still disappointed thanks to Carol's fam.

On to the next one!

First Lady

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Tyra Banks: Good Intentions, Poor Execution ?

This week quite a few events took place that were considered Newsworthy. Obama laid the proverbial Smackdown on Congress, Joe "You Lie" Wilson fueled the Right Wing Extremist fire, The 8th Anniversary of the Sept. 11th attacks just passed, and Tyra Banks showed her real hair. No you did not misread the previous statement, Tyra Banks, retired Supermodel/business woman/ talk show host showed her REAL hair on colored T.V.

Why is this newsworthy? Ummm I didn't think it was, until I logged onto Yahoo! and saw it front a center as if it would change lives throughout the world. Naturally I was curious, so I watched the video accompanied with the headlines and my initial bewilderness transitioned to discomfort as I watched Tyra subject herself to petting for her audience.


Now I know Tyra is all sorts of extra, and suffers from attention whoredom nonetheless I couldn't help reacting to this debacle in such an apprehensive manner. Is a Black woman's hair growth just that d*mn fascinating?! I know that stereotypically we are not known for length, or the softest textures but the fashion but watching the audience reactions made black hair truly seem foreign. I am unsure of how to guage this curiousity/interest so I'll let you all do it.

Was Tyra's "big reveal" a progressive step for Black women and their manes?

First Lady

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Yesssssssssss... Yesssss.... YESSSSSSSSSSSS


Sooo I almost had an Herbal Essence moment last week compliments of CANTU.
As I opened my $3.42 Cantu Shampoo and proceeded to squeeze it in my hand, I was expecting it to be a disappointment like most promising Black hair care products. Thank God my pessimism did not manifest itself because I promise you that I was immediately hypnotized by the amount of lather conjured up by a half dollar worth of Shampoo! I spent a good 10 minutes amazed at the fact that my hair was felt soft while I, YES ME, tended to its own cleansing.
The icing on the cake was the conditioner, it left my hair manageable and with a subtle shine, something I can rarely attest to. Not only did I love the feeling, I wanted to give the world permission to smell my new found glory after basking in the lovely scent that was also a consequence of its use. Overall, if you cannot tell, I have officially endorsed Cantu Shampoo and Conditioner. It was the best $6.64 I have ever spent in Wallys World!

With this stated I will introduce the official No Lye Review Scale:
4 wide toof combs = I bought momma some too
3 Wide toof combs = Cop it when its on sale
2 Wide Combs = Only if its free
1 wide toof combs = I returned it and only to get store credit.

I officially give Cantu Shampoo and Rinse Out Conditioner 4 Pig Tails: I'd buy my momma some... If I had the money to!

Purchase Location: Super Walmart
Price: $3.42 each


I ain't tryna waste $ I need so SEND ME YOUR REVIEWS!
First Lady

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Boos Vs. The Bees: Round 1 !!


Wake up, wake up, wake up, its tha first of the month!! Predictable?
Anywho,Happy Tuesday!

My weekend was an interesting one to say the least. Friday Ms Gold & I attend a going away gathering, a mutual friend was headed to China for a couple of months and wanted to send our blessings with her. While there we had discussions about various things of unimportance from Real Chance @ Love to T.O's ego however, a hair conversation resulted from miscellaneous references to us natural chicks in attendance.
In the midst of this exchange there seemed to be an immediate divide in the exchange, of course the relaxed women felt the need to defend themselves and this intrigued me. Do you think the presence of non relaxed hair automatically signals to women who choose alternate routes of hair care that they cannot be accepted?

The conversation wasn't intense at all because we were all friends and we truly could care less about what your relationship with yo scalp may be. However, I imagine had we all been strangers the discussion would have deviated from personal choice to political significance. Where the relaxed sistas at, I know you have an opinion, do we possess an unwelcoming aura to our counterparts?

This is not a new issue though, lord knows we've had our issues about self segregation since the indoctrination that took place during slavery. Please see Spike Lee's portrayal of this never ending issue that inspired the title:


What's really going on?!
FirstLady

Friday, August 28, 2009

au naturel

As I embrace natural, I embrace me.
Unabridged, untamed, unlearned;
I am naked.
With every kink and curl I embrace myself as God intended.
I am learning to appreciate my authenticity.
Shedding the threads of society, I become robed in self-respect, love and the realest confidence ever known.
Every day I learn myself.
I greet my fears, shake hands with my insecurities and tell them: we cannot be friends.

No Lye's New Look

Today my mentor told me we got beef on the blog scene, so let's just make it interesting! Let me know what yall think of the makeover.
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Shout out to Myspace Background Maker. Get myspace layouts, graphics, and flash toys at pYzam.


FirstLady

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Slowly Taking its COARSE ... Entry I

I've discovered a quite a few things about having VISIBLY natural hair over the last 2-3 weeks. One thing is I am admittedly self conscious about whether or not my hair is "intimidating" to unsuspecting onlookers. I also have a hypothesis that non black men are arguably more attracted (or possibly enthralled) with my hair, than my fellow brothas. But the most intriguing part about having visibly natural hair within the last 2-3 weeks is, many people think it is an invitation to touch me.
Perhaps its my stature, after all I only stand at a mere 4 feet and 11 inches. Regardless, my hair has been patted or fingered more in the last weeks than I could encounter my entire life. Now most of the "petting" has come from friends and curious family members but this Saturday, I became annoyed as a STRANGER felt like she had the right to touch my hair.
The scene was a cookout, I had my back turned to grab a drink out of a cooler, and as I proceeded to pour my drink, I felt someone grope my hair. I turned around to see a chick I had just literally met 45 minutes ago with a Koolaid grin respond to my blank stare with an " I JUST LOVE YOUR HAIR!". I counted to ten and discarded it as a poor exercise in judgment for this young lady but in hindsight I asked myself a few new questions. Would I be equally annoyed if a guy would have touched my hair without my permission? Did I take offense because I felt like a Tuskeegee experiment for non-blacks curious about kinky hair? Or should I simply get accustomed to the intrigue and allow people to gain a better understanding of this phenomena by partaking in a harmless session of "petting"?

I have yet to come to any conclusions, but the day to day experience of living "naturally" is as difficult as staying away from chemical straighteners. They both require extreme patience, and result in the education of self, as well as the people you encounter.

1stLady

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Dark N Lovely...




Just washed and left the condition in... what yall think??!

1st Lady

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Product Placement






Cantu? Carolls Daughter? Kalawentz? I've used all three products within the last 8 weeks to aid my hair in its continuous transition to its natural state. Nonetheless, I have yet to identify a product that seems to aid in all of my hairs needs. My next experiment will more than likely be with Miss Jessie's buttercreme however, we all could use guidance to save money and headache. Whether it be natural concoctions, store bought chemicals, or boutique found jewels, I'm all ears. So you already know the deal, hit me up... NoLyerz@gmail.com to shout out your favorite, or diss the overrated. This should be interesting!

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Capt Save A Colored?

Before I go on my tirade, I'd like to shout out and credit the folks at Average Bro for bringing this phenomena to my attention.
Anyone who has been immersed in the public school system recognizes the lack of cultural diversity in teaching staffs. I can personally attest to that when I think about my Kindergarten through 12th grade experiences. Not only were the majority of my teachers white, but they were mostly women who were from middle class neighborhoods. This may not seem like it may be an issue as it relates to education, however in an area where over 50% of the students receive reduced or free lunch, it tends to be difficult to find commonalities.

Nonetheless, Hollywood seems to be infatuated with the notion of white women, changing the lives of helpless and hopeless minorities in a significant amount of their films. Here's the latest case of the adopt a colored brought to the silver screen:



While I am a fan of philanthropy, I can't help but to feel patronized every time I see a film with this story line. An unsuspecting white person stumbles across violent,ignorant,angry,unappreciated, unloved, lost, segregated, impoverished, yet promising group of minority students and changes their lives for the better. How should one react to this repetitive plot? Is this an over analysis of simple entertainment, or does it truly speak volumes about the "humanization" of people of color only being possible once a white person has interfered?

Please see similar movies below:








You be the judge...

Sunday, August 9, 2009

Jesus Take the Wheel: Police Body Slam an 80 Year Old Woman at

Jesus Take the Wheel: Police Body Slam an 80 Year Old Woman at Wal-mart



Power: use or abuse

I just witnessed perhaps the most disturbing footage in a long time. This video is an account of the arrest of an 80 year old woman. The reality of these images are disheartening and bring me to the point of tears. Law enforcement, in my opinion often crosses the thin line between abuse of power and use of power.Would a white elderly woman have been treated the same?

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Hair Tales


As a young black woman, I have assorted memories about my hair. While hair in the African culture is typically perceived as ones crown of glory, for many of us Black women who still battle with standards of beauty, it can be a constant source of shame and even pain. With that stated, I invite you to share your Hair Tales with the world. Irregardless of the texture, age, length, and whether it was good or bad, we would love to hear it shared. Guys are more than welcome to submit too. If you could e mail your Hair Story to NOLYERZ@GMAIL.COM we will be happy aid in sharing your story with the world.

P.S Pictures are encouraged

I look forward to your submissions!!

You got dat GOOD HAIR



Chris Rock takes a satirical look at the obsession Black women have with their hair. While this is being marketed as a comedy, the issues we have within our community is no laughing matter. Based upon the trailer posted above, what is your reaction thus far, and will you attend the theaters to support this movie?

Friday, July 31, 2009

Buck Yo Feer



After BeerGate 2009 has come and gone, I’ve concluded that this contrived interaction has infuriated me more than the original incident that occurred with Sgt. Crowley and Prof. Gates. Don’t ask me what I was expecting, because I’m honestly not completely certain what I thought would result from this lemon squeezer. Nonetheless, I am confident in my assertion that this attempt at diplomacy has done nothing to improve race relations. If anything, this has ensured that unspoken racial tensions that have existed will continue, if not worsen.

I know I’ve made some absurd declarations in the past about various topics. However, this for some reason evokes an unusual amount of emotion within me. It’s been what, nine days this spectacle took place and in forty minutes I am supposed to embrace this “teachable lesson” because two black dudes and two white guys had a “brew” at the White House? The lingering sentiment composed by two social science/race connoisseurs concluded; its okay to disagree. How. Incredibly. Profound. Oh and our President’s thoughts on this historical discussion? Silence. I know!! That’s what I find the most unsettling about this event.

See I’m a Political commentary junkie, so I love to hear various intellectual perspectives on current events, relevant or otherwise. As a result for the past nine days I’ve viewed advocates from both sides argue on their parties behalf. In the midst of these often heated exchanges, our beloved President has been accused of playing racial favoritism. To combat this attempt, resolutions have been arose in the Senate proposing that the President formally apologize to the Cambridge Police Department. Why? Because he answered a question about this loaded incident with * gasp* his personal opinion. Consequently he had to host an artificial tea party that was intended to make the majority feel better about the subjectivity of minorities in positions of power to appear non threatening.

Then, the day of reconciliation has finally approached. The moment of truth we have all been awaiting has passed … and an outwardly shallow summit proved itself to be just that. Had I have posted this a few days ago, the tone would have been different. Honestly it probably would have consisted of myself praising the President for his attempt at a symbolic moment to move forward with race relations. Nevertheless, I now deem this 2400 second conversation an attempt to keep our socially popular yet Politically floundering President, in the good graces of the dominant culture.
Maybe if something simple would have changed, like the get together being held within the confinements of the White House walls without the awkward interaction, I would believe it was more genuine therefore more influential. Yet unfortunately I surmised that this conversation and the bland commentary following this dialogue ultimately reinforced Attorney General Eric Holder’s “judgmental” comments that took place during Black History Month:

“Though this nation has proudly thought of itself as an ethnic melting pot, in things racial we have always been and I believe continue to be, in too many ways, essentially a nation of cowards.”
Oh well, that’s what I get for actually believing that there was only one America. Plus, the homie has to get reelected. Sure… that’s it.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

JUNGLE MONKEY!


(CNN) -- A Boston, Massachusetts, police officer who sent a mass e-mail in which he referred to Harvard professor Henry Louis Gates Jr. as "banana-eating" and a "bumbling jungle monkey" has been placed on administrative leave and faces losing his job.
Officer Justin Barrett, 36, who is also an active member of the National Guard, sent an e-mail to some fellow Guard members, as well as the Boston Globe, in which he vented his displeasure with a July 22 Globe column about Gates' controversial arrest.
The columnist, Yvonne Abraham, supported Gates' actions, asking readers, "Would you stand for this kind of treatment, in your own home, by a police officer who by now clearly has no right to be there?"
In his e-mail, which was posted on a local Boston television station's Web site, Barrett declared that if he had "been the officer he verbally assaulted like a banana-eating jungle monkey, I would have sprayed him in the face with OC [oleoresin capsicum, or pepper spray] deserving of his belligerent noncompliance."
Barrett used the "jungle monkey" phrase four times, three times referring to Gates and once referring to Abraham's writing as "jungle monkey gibberish."
He also declared he was "not a racist but I am prejudice [sic] towards people who are stupid and pretend to stand up and preach for something they say is freedom but it is merely attention because you do not get enough of it in your little fear-dwelling circle of on-the-bandwagon followers."
According to a statement from Boston police, Commissioner Edward Davis took action immediately upon learning of Barrett's remarks, stripping the officer of his gun and badge. Barrett is "on administrative leave pending the outcome of a termination hearing."

CNN has been unable to reach Barrett for comment.
Davis wants Barrett, a two-year veteran of the Boston police force, fired, a source close to the investigation said. But Barrett will continue to be paid while on administrative leave, and no date has been set for his termination hearing.
Barrett, who identified himself as a veteran and a former English teacher, also took issue with Abraham's journalistic ability, calling her "a hot little bird with minimal experience in a harsh field," as well as "an infidel." The rambling e-mail also suggested that she "should serve me coffee and donuts on Sunday morning," later returning to that line of thought with, "I like a warm cruller and hot Panamanian, black. No sugar."
The Boston Police Patrolmen's Association was also quick to condemn the comments, describing them as "offensive and hurtful." The organization sought to assure citizens that "these statements are not representative of the ideals held by the dedicated police officers who make up this proud association."

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

"Everytime a woman cuts her hair, somewhere a Black girl cries" Tasha Mack - The Game



No need to cry little Black girl, it will grow again. Pictured above is Solange Knowles who is typically identified as Beyonce's little sister. Using her music to shift away from that image she has attempted to step away from her sibling's shadow however, she has literally SHED this image by cutting off her hair. While people have negatively criticized her for this act of rebellion, I commend her for her following statements:

[I] dont. need. your. attention. or. your. co-sign. dont. want. a. edge. up. or a perm. because. im not trying. to make this “a style” or a statement. i. just. wanted. to. be. free. from. the. bondage. that. black. women sometimes. put. on. themselves. with. hair. this. phase. of. my. life. i. want to spend . the time. the energy. and the money. on something else. not in the hair salon. im. not. mad. at . all of you. that have made your opinions known. and have sent negative. energy
. my way. i expected this of you. you. have. the right to have. an opinion. so. do. i.


Shout out to Concrete Loop

While I don't necessarily care for Solange as an entertainer, I respect her braveness and appreciate her identifying the insecurities black women have with their hair. You don't have to agree with it, but you damn sure should respect that she was bold enough to do something that most of us are afraid to do with our precious locks; cut the ties and start over, literally.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Sensitive Roots: Humorous or Offensive

The original No Lyerz conceived the concept of this blog based upon the connection that we as Black women have with our hair. Right now, we are both undergoing the process of growing our hair natural, which entails a process in which maintaining our manes becoming seemingly impossible to tame. While I have chosen to undertake the lazy option of often pulling my hair up, my PIC (Partner In Crime) recently exercise her option of the sew in. I think that is a wonderful lead in to the video below, a commercial from the new Q& A gurus KGB.



I especially felt obligated to bring this video to the forefront because I have noticed a shift in the amount of black women transitioning to Natural hair. Nonetheless the disapproval of rejecting a relaxer from my encounters seem consistent within our community. While this commercial was meant to entertain, and potentially "culturally connect", it hits a nerve when it comes to black women and their hair. Notice the kinkiness, and lack of attractiveness in the women who are receiving their new dos. Why is it that we in our original state feel undesirable? And was it offensive for KGB to shed light in this manner on a common question as it relates to black hair care?

I personally became annoyed at the vernacular and appearance of the women but I also know people who would associate their appearance with the state of their hair. Therefore I was not completely shocked at their portrayal. Nonetheless, I am still interested in knowing what your reaction may have been, had this commercial come across your television screen. Are you entertained, or offended?

Monday, July 27, 2009

Endangered Black Men



It looks like we have lost another Black man to senslessness, and Vernon Forrest is the newest notable victim. Forrest, notoriously known handing Sugar Shane Mosely his first defeat was killed in what appears to be a robbery. I literally knew nothing of this man nor his accomplishments, yet it brings light to the unfortunate situation we struggle with within the Black community, homicide and the death of our men. How many black men must we lose in the public eye before this issue becomes priority within our community?
Yes we discuss the issue, but what is being done to prevent it? What gun laws are in place to ensure the safety of our young people? So what do you think, isolated situation, or is this a microcosm of our larger problems? I'm unsure, but I tell you as someone who is the sister of two black men, its disheartening and terrifying to see the rates in which our men are dissipating and makes me feel rather helpless. How about you?

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Racism Vs. Paranoia

With the confirmation hearings of Judge Sotomayor coming to an end this week and the NAACP celebrating its first Birthday, there's no doubt this post racial society that we were supposed to be living in far from nonexistent. While race has typically always been an issue for people of color, it appears that white America is slowly adding themselves to the conversation in subtle ways, and apparently its not always warranted. Below is a video of Senator Barbara Boxer in a hearing with the CEO of the Black Chamber of Commerce, Harry C. Alford in which they discuss job creations with climate change.

Boxer insists that jobs are present in California and she has a statement from the NAACP and 100 Black Men President in Atlanta to convey this success. However, these are both civic groups and Alford was offended that Boxer turned this into a racial issue.While I simply interpreted Sen. Boxer to be rude, (which she is often characterized as), many, including Alford are labeling her a racist for this exchange.
The question of whether or not she would have used race groups for a white man in his position has arisen and I found that I could not legitimately say yes, the hearing would have continued in the same manner. Nonetheless, I am acknowledging that Mr. Alford is the President of a race specific group that could have contributed with her using those two examples as a litmus test. Honestly, I still have mixed feelings about it, so I would like to solicit your responses on this spectacle.

Women In The White House

Check out our current youtube video feature. President Obama introduced one of the new White House initiatives in support of an effort to diminish societal constraints on the success and achievements women and girls.I am pleased to say that this was the first bill signed in to law upon President Obama's entry to the White House. I am inspired that there is support for the shattering of glass ceilings everywhere. Please take some time to view this and tell us what you think!


P.Barnes



Saturday, July 18, 2009

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Thank you for taking your time to stop by our Blog, we look forward to keeping you entertained with witty commentary about all things discussion worthy. We are currently developing a channel for our actual video blog so look out for that, it should be up within the week, and we promise to discussion poppin by no later than Friday. If you would like to aid us in the commentary, the more the merrier! Just hit us up at No.Lyerz@Gmail.com . Again, thanks for the love!!


C. Brown